“The prayers of parents and grandparents are a powerful and tremendous gift” – Archbishop Martin

A few miles outside of Derry City, and just over the border in Donegal, my father is buried in the beautiful country churchyard of Saint Patrick’s in Iskaheen.  Every time I visit there I feel a strong sense of ‘connection’ with my ‘roots’, because it was in Saint Patrick’s that my mother was baptised, where she and my father made their First Communion, and where they were married.  In the old graveyard my maternal grandparents and great grandparents were laid to rest and, as my mother says, I am probably connected in some way to nearly everyone else buried there!

I expect that many of you have your own places of ‘connection’ like Iskaheen.  We live in a ‘connected’ world which is all about networks and links, but sometimes we forget that ‘family’ is perhaps the most natural network of them all.

Family is all about ‘connection’, and you, my dear grandparents of Ireland, are vital links in the chain.  As Pope Francis says, you help us to appreciate “the continuity of the generations” (Amoris Leatitia 192).  Very often it is you who ensure that faith and the most important values are passed down to your grandchildren.  Your words and affection help children and young people to realize that history did not begin with them, but that we are all part of an age-old pilgrimage.  You bridge the generation gap.

Earlier this week I did a bit of research, asking a few people what is it like to be a grandparent?  I heard about the joy that grandchildren can bring, how grandchildren can give you a new lease of life, and help to keep you feeling young.  You can have the time to give them that perhaps you didn’t have when your own children were growing up.  Of course one granny honestly admitted that, while  the grandchildren are great fun to be with, it’s sometimes a relief when they go home at the end of a tiring visit!

Bridging the generation gap as a grandparent isn’t always easy, especially knowing when to speak and what to say.  Every new generation brings change, new challenges, and different ways of thinking.  Older people can be labelled as being ‘un-modern’, not ‘with-it’, and even accused of ‘interfering’.  It can be difficult to connect with your children and grandchildren in their struggles to cope with the pressures of today.

One grandmother asked me recently to pray for her daughter’s marriage – the family lives in a lovely, four-bedroom house with all the ‘mod cons’ but huge demands from work are putting pressure on their relationship.  She looks after her grandchildren four times a week, and often also on Saturdays because the parents feel the need to relax with friends after the exhaustion of their busy week.  She brings the children to Mass on a Sunday and, last year, because mum and dad were caught up in other things, she attended the ‘Do this in Memory’ programme when the wee-fellow was making his First Holy Communion.  The children have their own rooms, TVs, iPads and headphones and she says she’s not sure what they’re watching or playing on their computers.  It was so different when we were growing up, she says.  Everyone seems so isolated today, even lonely.

Perhaps some of her story is familiar. I encouraged her to keep on loving and talking to her children and grandchildren, gently seeking moments to bring them together.  Although family is all about relationship, it can still be difficult to make connections in a generation which can be so individualistic, emphasising ME time: MY space, MY needs, MY independence, MY rights.  What’s needed of course is opportunities together as a couple and family, to work on OUR needs, our future, our happiness.  It is true heart to heart communication like this that builds and holds family together.

Sometimes, as grandparents, you may wish to step in and say something, to point out gently and in love what you think is right and wrong.  You want to offer the wisdom and even the pain of your own life experiences, especially when you are worried that your children and grandchildren could be putting the future of their family at risk.

Today’s readings speak about our responsibility to correct someone when we see them going wrong.  The prophet Ezekiel speaks about warning the wicked man ‘to renounce his wicked ways and repent’.  In the Gospel Reading Jesus tells his disciples: “If your brother does something wrong, go and have it out with him”, and if necessary get others to help you win back your brother.  This can be difficult nowadays in a generation which would hold up the right to individual choice as being so important- even more important than the right to life itself.

But I believe it is possible to offer correction nowadays, and to point out what is right and what is wrong.  But unless we do so with love, tenderness and mercy, we will simply be seen as interfering, we will be told to ‘back off’ and our efforts will fall on deaf ears.  To correct with love – that’s where you grandparents come into your own.  You are  not, of course, there to replace the consciences of your children and grandchildren, but neither should you shy away from helping them to form their consciences.  Saint Paul in today’s second reading has good advice for all of us:

“Love is the one thing that cannot hurt your neighbour; that is why it is the answer to every one of the commandments”.

As grandparents you are in a unique position to offer loving advice and correction, even.  By word and example you can teach your children and grandchildren that families are built on mutual love, respect, loyalty, sincerity, trust and cooperation (Pope Francis General Audience 7 October 2015).

My dear grandparents, you are present at the happy and sad moments in the lives of your children and grandchildren.  You share their joys, their fears and their worries.  You are there for them during pregnancy as they experience the joy of motherhood and fatherhood, or perhaps when they are struggling to have children, or have a miscarriage or tragically at times on the death of a child.  You help them to learn what it means to be a mother and a father, a son or a daughter, a brother or a sister. You teach them about the honour, sacrifices, responsibilities and generosity that hold family life together.  You offer support and offer understanding to single mothers left to raise children, to families who struggle with addictions, and those who experience financial problems or the special challenges of disability or illness.  You look out for, and intervene when you see the horrible signs of domestic violence or aggression.

And you keep on caring even when your children’s  family situation may not be what you would have wanted for them.  You do not stop loving someone whose marriage has broken down or if their family is wounded or if they are in a new relationship or family situation.

The Church has a lot to learn from you, grandparents.  The Church is often described as Mother Church. I sometimes think that as well as being a loving mother, the Church is also called to be like a caring grandmother or grandfather, to share the joys, fears and worries of her families.  The Church will correct her children with merciful love when they are at risk of harm or danger, but she will never give up on reaching out to her children – even those who may feel disconnected or excluded from her.  Like any good Mother or Grandmother, the Church offers the support and encouragement of her prayer, the Mass and the Sacrament of Reconciliation.  She urges families to pray together, remembering as today’s Gospel Reading says, where two or three people gather together in the name of Jesus, he is there among them.  Of course, the prayers of parents and grandparents are a powerful and tremendous gift – I’ve noticed that when my nieces and nephews are doing exams or need special prayers, they’ll ask their granny to pray for them before they’ll ask their uncle, the Archbishop!!

Pope Francis has said: “The prayer of grandparents and of the elderly is a great gift for the Church, it is a treasure!  A great injection of wisdom for the whole of human society: above all for one which is too busy, too taken up, too distracted (Pope Francis Audience 11 March 2015)”.

My dear grandparents, on behalf of the children and grandchildren of Ireland, and on behalf of the Church, I thank you today from my heart for your prayer, your wisdom, your generosity, your loving correction, and for being such an important part of our lives and for keeping us connected to who we are as family, and as Church.  Amen.

  “Thousands of Christians are still being persecuted, displaced or expelled, tortured, discriminated and murdered simply because they are Christian … even though we seldom read or hear about it in the Western media” – Archbishop Martin

Dear brothers and sisters in Jesus Christ, in a few moments in the Creed we will profess together our shared faith in God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

The prophet Isaiah encouraged his people to remember their roots in the faith.  He said: “look to the rock from which you were hewn, and to the quarry from which you were dug” (Isaiah 51:1). It is good for us to reflect upon the past generations of men and women who handed on the faith to us.  If the walls of this ancient abbey church could speak, they would tell of generous, holy and heroic men and women who remained strong in faith, firm in hope and active in charity – often at great cost to themselves.

We are linked together by our devotion to Saint Oliver Plunkett, who was a true shepherd who laid down his life for his sheep.  The stories of Saint Oliver Plunkett, and many other heroic people of faith, remind us of the courage and sacrifices of our ancestors.  I thank God for the freedom to believe and worship that we enjoy today, and I pray that this freedom shall never again be undermined or taken for granted.

I say that today, being conscious that the persecution of Christians remains widespread and often unreported in many parts of the world. 

It is shocking to think that in 2017 thousands of Christians are still being persecuted, displaced or expelled, tortured, discriminated and murdered simply because they are Christian.  This is happening in many countries of the world – even though we seldom read or hear about it in the Western media.

Sadly, many Catholics and other Christians in Ireland, Germany and other parts of the Western world, remain unaware of the horrors and extent of persecution that our sisters and brothers in Christ have to suffer.

How can we mark this day, honouring and commemorating Saint Oliver Plunkett, without opening our eyes and ears to the brutality of what some of our brothers and sisters in the Christian family are experiencing?

Pope Francis has often spoken about the ongoing persecution of people today because of their faith.  He offers the example of the martyrs as inspiration for Christians who face open hostility and violence in their daily lives.  He reminds us that we are called to proclaim the Gospel in a world of sin and injustice, and the best way for us to do that is to be humble and poor like Jesus.  We win over the world by the power of love and charity.

We gain inspiration from the words in the first letter of Saint Peter: “even if you do suffer for righteousness sake, you will be blessed”.

Standing up for your faith, being a witness for what you believe in, is not the stuff of ancient history or another world.  It is a living reality for Christians across the world today.  Even in Ireland and Germany, Catholics and Christians are entering a time when we will need the gift of courage to stay faithful to the teachings of the Gospel. 

It is important that we are not afraid to witness to our Christian faith in public, and especially in a sometimes aggressively secular world which would seek to silence the public voice of believers.  As believers we are all called to speak courageously on issues like:

–          the sacredness and dignity of all human life;

–          on the uniqueness of love and marriage between a man and a woman that is open to the gift of children as fruit of that love;

–          the need for a fair distribution of the worlds goods;

–          welcoming the stranger and those who are persecuted; and,

–          the importance of respecting the environment and caring for the Earth – our common home.

Since arriving in Lamspringe on Thursday I have felt a strong connection of warmth, friendship and faith with the people who have welcomed us here.  Because of our common links to Saint Oliver Plunkett, our patron of peace and reconciliation, I feel like we are ‘cousins’ – perhaps distant cousins – but still closely connected in baptism within the great universal Church.  It reminds me that our Church throughout the world is a ‘family of families’.

This time next year Ireland will host the next World Meeting of the Families in Dublin.  The theme is: The Gospel of the Family- Joy for the World!  We hope, Bishop Norbert, that perhaps some of you, our ‘cousins’ in the faith from the diocese of Hildesheim, may be able to travel to Dublin to join us and  share in our celebration.  We are even hoping that Pope Francis himself will be there!

Meine lieben Schwestern, meine lieben Brüder,

vielen Dank für Eure Liebenswürdigkeit und Euren herzlichen Empfang von mir und den anderen Pilgern.

Es ist wunderschön, die Möglichkeit zu haben, heute hier bei euch zu sein.

Als Erzbischof von Armagh grüße ich euch auch ganz herzlich von den Menschen in meiner Diözese, dort, wo Oliver Plunkett gelebt hat.

Ich danke Euch für die Hingabe und die Verehrung, die ihr und eure Vorfahren für die Reliquien unseres geliebten Oliver Plunketts gezeigt haben.

Gott segne Euch allezeit.  God bless you always.  Amen.

At the invitation of An Taoiseach, Mr Leo Varadkar TD, a delegation representing bishops and officials from the Irish Catholic Bishops’ Conference held a two-hour bilateral meeting today with ministers in Government Buildings, Dublin.  This was the first such meeting to take place under the Church-State structured dialogue process with Mr Varadkar as Taoiseach.

The Church delegation was led by Archbishop Eamon Martin of Armagh and Archbishop Diarmuid Martin of Dublin, the president and vice-president respectively of the Irish Catholic Bishops’ Conference. 

After the meeting Archbishop Eamon Martin said, “We had a constructive discussion with the Taoiseach and his ministers today, and we focused on issues which are fundamental to sustaining the common good of Irish life.  I believe that regular Church-State dialogue is in the interest of everyone and reflects a truly pluralist society.”

The agenda for the meeting included: World Meeting of Families 2018 and possible visit by Pope Francis; education issues; the 8^thAmendment to the Constitution; Northern Ireland; International issues (development aid); and justice and social issues.

The delegation representing bishops and officials comprised Archbishop Eamon Martin; Archbishop Diarmuid Martin; Archbishop Kieran O’Reilly of Cashel & Emly; Archbishop Michael Neary of Tuam; Bishop Francis Duffy of Ardagh & Clonmacnois; Ms Finola Finnan, Deputy Director of Trócaire; Monsignor Gearóid Dullea, Executive Secretary of the Irish Catholic Bishops’ Conference; Mr Harry Casey, Executive Administrator of Commissions and Agencies; Ms Kate Liffey, National Director for Catechetics; and Martin Long, Director of the Catholic Communications Office.

The delegation representing the Government included the Taoiseach, Mr Leo Varadkar TD; Ms Frances Fitzgerald TD, Tánaiste and Minister for Business, Enterprise and Innovation; Mr Simon Harris TD, Minister for Health; Mr Richard Bruton TD, Minister for Education and Skills; Ms Regina Doherty TD, Minister for Employment Affairs and Social Protection; and Mr Shane Ross TD, Minister for Transport, Tourism and Sport.  The meeting also included officials from the Department of the Taoiseach including Mr Martin Fraser, Secretary General; Ms Miriam Dollard, Head of Protocol and Mr Brian Murphy, Chief of Staff.